How have you reckoned with leaving your husband behind? And if I can make him that person, then I have won as a parent. I decided that my new parenting philosophy is that I can’t protect him from the pain of the world, but I can show him that there is truth and beauty in the midst of it. And then I realized that I was going to be the worst thing that happened to him if it went badly. I think I thought you just create a beautiful, Instagram-y bubble for your kid, and then that’s parenting. I also decided that my job is not to try to make the world safe. I became less invested in milestones and also those lovely hallucinations we have, when our kids are going to become astrophysicists. Infinite possibilities can be exciting, but sometimes even more beautiful is doubling down on the life that you have. This is my one job, this is the one man I love, this is my one kid. When the world shuts down, then you realize, these are my plot points. If we just keep going, it does make the world a little bigger for us, and it really does show people who you really were. Why did you decide to keep working as a professor?
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